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Find Compassion
By peace | July 10, 2007
We all have emotional wounds inflicted upon us by others. It is easy to feel resentful and angry, but as long as you feel anger and resentment that person is still controlling you. Don’t give them that power. Let the hatred go, and let the hurt inflicted upon you fade from your life.
Find compassion for the people you have upset. If guilt is holding you back, try to get understanding, forgiveness and acceptance from the person you have hurt. If that is not possible, imagine that person forgiving you.
Find compassion for yourself. It’s hard to feel love and compassion for others if you cannot love and feel compassionate for yourself. Stop kicking yourself. Look for ways you did your best, and give yourself credit for making the effort.
With the exception of children under eighteen, you are not responsible for the thoughts, feelings and actions of other people. Keep reminding yourself of that. Spend time with people who uplift and inspire you, and stop associating with the negative ones.
Stop making black-or-white judgments. Life is far too complex to be rigidly divided this way. If ever you start thinking that you have totally messed up or that everything went wrong, remind yourself that nothing is 100% bad. Stop judging yourself and others. We are all doing the best we can. Don’t waste time and energy with negative attitudes. Spend a day looking for the positive in yourself and others. Give compliments to others, and accept compliments if they are given to you.
If you tend to focus on the negative, it is time to look for more balancing positives in a situation. Avoid global generalisations such as stupid, ugly, failure, total disaster. These are just labels; they are not the whole story. And finally stop trying to read minds. How do you know what other people think? How do you know what other people will do? Don’t ever assume anything.
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