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Rules For Parenting
By peace | December 27, 2007
Adults often tell children,”Grow up.” Perhaps one of the wisest things adults can do is to ‘grow down‘ — to do or say something from time to time, as children frequently do, that makes little or no sense. ~ Allen Klein
Twelve Rules That Don’t Changes
1. Don’t disapprove of what a child is — disapprove of the actions.
2. Give attention and praise for good behaviour, not for bad behaviour.
3. Parents should allow and encourage discussion, but the parent makes the final decision.
4. Punishment should be reasonable and related to the offense.
5. Throw out all rules that you are unwilling to enforce, and be willing to change rules if you think it reasonable to do so.
6. Don’t lecture and don’t warn. Youngsters can remember things they think are important to remember.
7. Don’t feel you have to justify rules, although you should be willing to explain them.
8. As your youngsters get old, many rules may be flexible and subject to discussion and compromise. However, on those few rules you really feel strongly about, enforce them even if other parents have a different rule.
9. Allow the child or youth to assume responsibility for decisions as he or she shows the ability to do so.
10. Don’t expect children to show more self-control than you do as a parent.
11. Be honest with your youngster — hypocrisy shows.
12. The most important thing in your youngster’s self-image is what he or she thinks you think. Self-image is a major factor in how the youngster thinks and what he or she does.
Encourage your child to use his or her creativity. Often, the simplest idea can blossom into an hour’s entertainment. All that is needed is a supportive adult (with a sense of humour), a suggestion or two, and a child’s imagination. ~ Leslie Hamilton
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